Full Description
Break the pattern of abuse--safely!Battered women often become so frightened, isolated, and self-doubting that they don't recognize they are being victimized. They may minimize the seriousness of the abuse and make excuses for the abuser. The checklists, questionnaires, and personal stories in Growing Free can provide the shock of recognition they need to be able to say, "This is wrong. It has to end." Combining psychological insight with practical safety information, Growing Free helps the reader to understand--and end--the vicious cycle of wooing, tension, violence, and remorse that characterizes all levels of domestic violence. It outlines a series of steps abused women can take to ensure their emotional and physical safety. Growing Free offers both practical and psychological resources, including:
lists of abusive behaviors from ridiculing family members to physical violence
common rationalizations for abuse used by both victims and perpetrator
detailed discussions of protection orders and other legal matters
detailed preparations and safety precautions that may make leaving less dangerous
advice on what to take with you when you leave
guidelines for establishing safe relationships in the future
Growing Free provides readers with a straightforward, action-oriented approach to the problem of domestic violence. A companion volume available separately, A Therapist's Guide to Growing Free, offers therapists a comprehensive outline of the issues, tasks, and goals involved in treatment with victims and survivors.
Contents
Contents
Chapter 1. Is It Me?
What is Domestic Violence?
Definitions of Violence in Relationships
Accepting Where You Are
Chapter 2. Effects of Domestic Violence on the Victim
Elements of the Dysfunctional Relationship
Cycle of Violence
Chapter 3. Effects of Domestic Violence on Children
How Children Develop under Stress
Chapter 4. The Batterer
Chapter 5. What You Can Do
Safety Plans
Chapter 6. After You Leave
Building a Relationship with Yourself
Building a Relationship with Someone Else
Your Children
Index
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